Bye For Now

Bye For Now

A few years ago my little brother started calling me almost everyday. It was usually around 1:00 p.m. Dallas time and 11:00 a.m. Seattle time. That was when The Price is Right was over, which was one of his favorite shows. I think he got a kick out of me being a contestant on The Price is Right in 2005, so that’s probably why he thought of me when he’d watch it. Harold and I would try to catch The Price is Right as often as we could so we could talk about the show when Dougie called. We’d talk about who won a car, who overbid, when someone won both showcases, or when they both lost! Sometimes when he called I was busy so he’d leave me a voicemail but would still call me back later if I didn’t get right back with him. I have several voicemails saved on my phone from him:

“This is Doug. Bye for now.” 

ALL of his phone messages were pretty much just like this. Actually, since his passing on November 19, 2024, listening to some of his messages again has brought me a fresh perspective on the hope of the resurrection. 

Although he was mentally disabled since birth, Dougie believed in Jesus. He enjoyed going to Sunday School, church, and Vacation Bible School as a child, and attended church well into his adulthood with mom until she was no longer able to take him due to her illness. He had a childlike faith and was “forever young.”

Dad, me, Eldon, Denny, Joyce, Dougie, Ronnie, & Mom. Our family Christmas card, 1960.
Dougie and Dad at home in the 1970’s
Dougie and Mom in the early 1980’s.
Dougie and Mom in 1988.
Mom and Dougie in 1991.

“Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven.” Matthew 19:14

Dougie also knew right from wrong. One day back in the 1980’s he came up to me, upset with himself about telling a lie. His humility was so genuine. We prayed about it together, in faith, asking for Jesus’ forgiveness. 

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9

I look forward to seeing my little brother again one day in heaven, but for now his soul is with Jesus.

So we are always of good courage. We know that while we are at home in the body we are away from the Lord, for we walk by faith, not by sight. Yes, we are of good courage, and we would rather be away from the body and at home with the Lord. 2 Corinthians 5:6-8

Because, 

Jesus said, “I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die. Do you believe this?” John 11:25

The Bible has a lot to say about the promise of the resurrection. 

I want to remind you of the gospel I preached to you… that Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures, that he was buried, and that he was raised on the third day according to the Scriptures.  1 Corinthians 15:1-4

Christ has indeed been raised, the first fruits of those who have fallen asleep. For since death came through a man, the resurrection of the dead comes also through a man. For as in Adam all die, so in Christ all will be made alive. 1 Corinthians 15:20-22

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In his great mercy he has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead.  1 Peter 1:3

Our resurrected bodies will be spiritual, imperishable, and raised in glory and power. Resurrected bodies will never experience sickness, decay, deterioration, or death.

The last couple of times I saw Dougie was in May and June 2024.

Debbie, Dougie, and me at a downtown Burien, Washington restaurant. Dougie and me at Angle Lake Park, May 27, 2024.

Harold and I visited Dougie and my niece, Debbie, in May 2024 on our way to an Alaskan cruise to celebrate Harold’s 76th birthday. We had lunch together at a downtown Burien, Washington restaurant, and then we took Dougie to Angle Lake Park later that day and sat and watched the children play. He enjoyed watching them run around the water spray, having fun, and hearing them laugh.

I gave Dougie a 1988 picture of him and Mom. His eyes lit up and a big smile emerged as soon as he saw it! May 26, 2024.

My niece was Dougie’s caregiver for 28 years and I believe he was very happy with the life and the home that Debbie provided for him. He had a wonderful, happy disposition! I also believe it was part of God’s plan for my niece to be his caregiver. She grew up loving him as her uncle and ended up loving him like a son. He was a special blessing to everyone in our family and to the many who knew and loved him.

Harold, Dougie, and me in downtown Burien,
June 4, 2024

Harold and I returned to Seattle after the cruise on June 4, and visited with Dougie in downtown Burien. I gave him a warm beanie from Alaska in anticipation of the cold weather this coming winter, not knowing at the time that Dougie would not be going through another Seattle winter.

Dougie wanted to go to his favorite nearby restaurant, The Little Chicken Burger, so we walked over to it. The picture of us at this restaurant is the last picture that Dougie and I got together, and the last day that I saw him in person.

I last talked to him on the phone on Monday, November 18, the anniversary date of our dad’s passing. Dougie passed away the next day, Tuesday November 19, 2024. According to the doctor, he passed away approximately 10:00 a.m. likely due to a sudden heart attack or blood clot.

My little brother, mentally disabled since birth, was actually very wise. He left me several messages reminding me that because of our relationship with Jesus, our parting was only temporary and that we will see each other again in the future:

“This is Doug. Bye for now.”